Author: Marley (---.proxy.aol.com)
Date: 10-07-2005 20:45
Hi everyone,
First off I just wanna thank you for taking time to read this. I feel so confused, I didn't know where else to turn because the girl friends I have are too busy with either school or their careers to really offer me any help.
My name is Marley Davis and I am twenty years old with a fiance named Andy. I feel like he is the best thing that happened to me, I feel so lucky to be with him, to be loved by him yet at the same time it terrifies me to know I love him so passionately... it's scary to be that vulnerable because I know how hard I fall.... I am a very, very romantic, loving person and if I fall for someone, I fall for him hard and give my all for the relationship. Andy is the same way, he is the most attentive person in the world, it amazes me how attentive, protective, and sweet he is to me. He tries so hard to keep me laughing, and pleased. Yet, he does things that just really make me feel uneasy.
I have a big problem with the fact that he still hangs out with his 'ex's' who have cheated on him before and tried to make him cheat before. Also, he gets really, really jealous of his ex's new boyfriend. He gets absolutely enraged whenever he sees the guy or hears about him, etc. When I asked Andy about this, he tried to tell me I was overreacting, and it wasn't jealousy it was just him being competitive, comparing himself to other males. But this stuff seems to be happening, and when I try to talk about it, it's always me he makes out to be the paranoid, over-reacting one who "causes drama."
I love my fiance so much, I would do anything for him and have proven that by no longer keeping in touch with my exes. I don't want to be the psycho bitch girlfriend who can't have a sense of humor or trust her boyfriend. I do trust him completely, but what I would like to know is how far do you trust someone without being a 'sucker' as my mom would say? Am I overreacting to be really upset by this kind of stuff? I am trying my best to be laid back and let things go, but this sort of thing really gets to me. Why would he be so concerned with his ex if he didn't still harbor feelings for her?
Any advice you could give me would be wonderful. Thank you so much.
Dazed and confused,
Marley
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